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Happy fall y’all! It’s yet another picture-perfect, blue-sky-beautiful day here in Cotacachi, Ecuador. While I am grateful for what I have, I am also missing the changing of the seasons in East Tennessee. Feel free to spam me with your favorite pictures of nature showing off in all her autumn glory.
I've been relfecting on the healing process and the shifts we are asked to make along the way. These are the 4 that I've come up with. Maybe you would like to explore along with me?
The healing journey is a deeply personal one and your experience of it will be unique to you. Embrace your path. Stop thinking that your journey should look like anyone else's or that theirs should look like yours. We are all here to find our own way and attempting to conform to the experience or expectation of another and make yourself fit into any kind of box, will hold you back. Get curious. Shift away from what you think it should look like and open to your own path.
Turn your focus inward. Blaming others or holding them responsible for whatever is unfolding in your life will be 100% successful in holding you back and making sure that whatever you try doesn’t work. Some proclaim that forgiveness opens the forward path. I truly believe that acceptance is the key that unlocks true healing. If we begin at acceptance, there is no need to blame, and without the blame, there is no one and nothing to forgive. Shift your focus away from what anyone else did or didn’t do, decide how you want to move forward, and assume responsibility for your healing.
In the beginning it may feel more comfortable to passively receive healing that others actively give. Everything from massages and Reiki, to chiropractic and acupuncture, readings to some forms of coaching, and more—all involve a practitioner-dictated approach. You tell them what is wrong, they decide what needs to be done. There is absolutely a time and place for all of these things, but they are not the be all/end all. If you are trying to push through or force yourself to show up in a career, relationship, or lifestyle that is completely out of alignment with your inner truth and authentic self, no amount of passive care is going to bring forth the healing you want. At some point in your healing journey, you will feel the call to shift out of passive participation and into actively making authentic and aligned choices.
When in a healing crisis we seem to be prone to giving all of our power away to what “they say.” We have a problem. We want it gone. We do all the research, create a list of boxes to check, and proceed to do all of the things without even pausing to check-in with ourselves, ask our body what’s going on, and what it would like from us to be able to heal and move forward in new ways. Shift out of doing what others say, actively listen to your body, and engage your inner knowing. If you listen, your body will tell you what it needs.
Midlife is such an interesting time. Our bodies are changing at a rate not seen since puberty. Hormone levels are fluctuating and it may seem as though chaos reigns. However, I do believe that the human body is made to transition this time with a lot more ease and grace than we give it credit for.
What if midlife is such a challenge because we’re carrying around so much unfinished business of the past. Traumas, relationships that didn’t work out the way we’d hoped, childhood dreams that we gave up on—I believe that all of these things are energetically consuming so many resources we could otherwise be using to create a more enjoyable experience.
And none of these things are going to show up in any of the bloodwork that may be dictating your approach. Even outside of these more emotionally oriented things, it is tricky to place all of your faith in bloodwork anyway. It seems they yield far more useful results in acute situations than in chronic ones and they only tell a tiny bit of a much more complicated story.
Did you know that your thoughts help dictate your biochemical environment? Because, they do. Maybe as we continue to evolve and advance, blood tests will be able to tell you that you’re spending too much time and resources transfixed on that thing that happened when you were 12 or the marriage that failed at 36 and the deficiency of resources created by focusing on those things is creating the perfect chemical environment for the expression of disease.
Maybe. One day. But we’re surely not there yet.
So, how do we resolve that unfinished business? Not by fixating on it, blaming others, or harboring regret, shame, or unworthiness. But by looking inward and asking, what do we need to bring this to resolution? Most often, you’re going to find it’s by reclaiming the power that’s fueling the fixation. In cutting off the power supply, you claim your freedom and then you can redirect that power to fuel your healing.
It really can be that simple, but it will never happen so long as your focus is directed outside of you.
So, where to begin?
Learn your Human Design and start your experiment. If you try to deep dive in the beginning, it will be overwhelmingly confusing and you’ll give up. Start with Strategy and Authority. Experimenting with these 2 things alone will initiate a magical transformation. Learn about how you are designed to make decisions. Stop making them by default or based on what others say and start making them according to your authority. Visit www.jovianarchive.com and get your chart for free.
Practice listening to and following your inner voice. Trust your gut (or spleen, or emotional center, or your heart, etc...depending on your HD authority). Engage your intuition, make decisions according to the feedback from your body (rather than your mind), and start to trust yourself.
Let go of your story. Focusing on the things that happened are going to keep you in a negative feedback loop. Rather than focusing on what happened, focus on how to bring it to resolution, do that thing, and move forward.
Work with practitioners that engage your intuitive responses. When they tell you whatever they believe is going on and what they think should be done, ask them to ask you if that is true for you and to involve you in the process. In this way, you will be able to weed out the things that would be of no benefit, or even of detriment, and focus solely on the course of action that resonates with you and that would be of the most benefit. True empowerment happens when your inner knowing is unlocked and engaged—when you are included in the process.
If you start to do these things, I promise it’s going to bring a lot more ease and grace to your healing experience.
Is it time to tip the scales out of a passive approach and into a more active one?
Because that is what I help my clients do! I will engage you in the process from the very beginning and through a very specific series of questions, I will guide you to identify exactly what needs to be done to get what you want.
Would it be beneficial to book a FREE Discovery call with me and explore your options?
If so, tap “Book Now” and let’s get started!
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